Meet the ladies: the #MeToo movement must be about more than just women

Heather Mallick, a theatre director, is known for creating headlines with her sassy emailing of heads of state and celebrities. At a time when every publication wants to fit your opinion in a 3.0 column, it’s refreshing to read her defence of the #MeToo movement and, more specifically, what it taught her as a feminist. “For me, the tactics are as easy as:

take notes and write a check

“Everything about [the #MeToo movement] is amazing. But there are these dynamics between the sexes that nobody has really questioned. My problem with that is that they frame sexuality in three topics: shame, guilt and struggle.

“Shame implies a struggle. That’s how the play is written. The protagonist is lonesome, an aspiring actress with a hard time talking to people. At the beginning, she’s full of self-loathing and does horrible things. She reveals only at the end, but mostly, her life is wasted because she has a heart of stone.

“Even a man like Camille Cosby blames it on his womanly endeavours. He says, ‘There were lots of other men in my life that made my life more interesting.’

“We become comfortable in shame. If my mother says she’s not really happy, I often won’t ask her, because I know she’s going to tell me that she was a hard-working, loving, neglectful, irritable, and all that, and I’ll be too embarrassed to ask her what made her happy.

“That’s how we become comfortable with shame. So we need to broaden out that lens to move away from that gender narrative. If we want to move from that gender frame, we’re just wasting our time with the #MeToo movement, because it’s not really about true honesty and being completely truthful about what’s going on in our hearts and souls.

“After reading about Camille Cosby’s life, I took notes on why she’s so certain her life is not worth sharing. She says that she pays too much tax. She says she doesn’t like to talk to people. She says she is a minimalist. She’s got really dark, pretentious self-portraits. One of them is entitled. It’s got a Christian cackle on it. I’ve got a copy, and I put it in my dark, quirky, pretentious manbag. I feel as though it’s the best limbering-up I can get.

“She’s saying, ‘Listen, listen: I’m very particular about what I like to do. This isn’t me telling you what I’m going to do tomorrow.’ There are some people that can’t relate to this movement at all. I’m a lot more plugged in with these people. But then there are women out there who feel almost like their femininity has disappeared. I’m very curious to see how the #MeToo movement becomes successful. If they don’t change the way they frame sexuality, then we’re going to keep fighting about it in the courtroom.

“Who cares about the NFL?”

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